Flow: What it is, How to find it

Do you flow? Many people think of flow, and they think of smoothness, consistency, and ease. You’re not wrong! However, there is a very specific definition of flow in productivity and wellness, and we’re going to talk about it today. Julie Barros has worked with many people in New Jersey for life coaching, helping them to visualize their goals, improve productivity, feel better, or just take the next step. Flow is a great tool in this process, so read on to find out what it is and how to feel it!

What is Flow?
Flow was first named and defined by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in 1975, including the state of being fully immersed in an activity, energized, focused, fully involved and enjoying it. When people flow, they often report the sensation that time is disappearing, without feeling pressured or uncomfortable. Time spent playing your favorite phone game, talking with your best friend on the phone, or engaging in an interesting project often produces a flow state.

What does flow do for me?
Sure, flow sounds like a great way to work, but does it have benefits aside from being enjoyable? It sure does! When you flow, you are likely to enjoy your work more, be more productive while still feeling energized, and you’ll avoid the dreaded concept of burnout! Many people who seek life coaching in New Jersey want to find a way to reclaim their “flow” in what they do!

How can I “flow” more?
You can’t force flow, but you can make it more likely to keep happening. A key component of flow is to manage frustration and boredom. Think of an exciting scavenger hunt where you have to search for each item for a few minutes, and maybe some a little longer, but they are always discoverable. Now, think of a scavenger hunt where everything is neatly lined up on a table. Boring, right? Alternatively, think of a scavenger hunt that is nearly impossible and each item takes hours to find—if you can find it at all. This would be so frustrating that you might give up. Situations where you are challenged, but not too much, are the best for promoting flow. Of course, eliminating distractions and focusing on what you truly love can help as well.

While we would love to live in the flow state all day, this is not always possible. However, a skilled life coach can help you meet these goals and feel great about your accomplishments!

A Creative Way to Assess Your Values and Priorities

Working as a life strategies coach in New Jersey requires a lot of flexibility. Unlike some professions, where there is a clear “good,” “bad,” “right,” or “wrong” way to go about doing things, life coaching is all about helping you to be the best you can be in your life—and this looks different for everyone. One of the first tasks I start off with in many cases is helping clients to understand their values and priorities. Many people come in not knowing themselves very well, and though coaching, they can find out how to do this better. Today, I’ll share a creative way that you can assess your values and priorities, often called the Johari Window.

The Johari Window
This technique is popular in psychology, social work, life coaching, organizational consulting, and more, and for great reason! It is simple, fun, and can be creative. The technique was developed back in the mid-1900’s by psychologists, and helps to make values and priorities clear.

How it Works
The process is simple. Draw a box and divide it into four parts, like a window pane. You will have two panels across and two going down for a total of four. On the top is yourself; on the side is others. The first box is “known,” the rest are “unknown.” By combining, you will find that the top-left corner represents those things that are known to yourself and to others, sometimes called the “public arena”; the top-right corner represents those things are not known to yourself, but known to others, otherwise known as your “blind spot”; the lower left-hand corner is known to yourself, but not known to others, representing your “hidden self”; and the lower right-hand corner is not known to yourself or others—this is a big mystery! After drawing your grid, fill in the corresponding values and priorities. The lower left-hand corner is often represented simply with a question mark, indicating that you don’t know it yet. This represents your future growth and hidden motivations.

What it Means
The exercise is the most important part of this task, as it encourages you to think through the various levels of “knowing” and reflect on how you see yourself, as well as how you think others see you. You can use this information to plan your future, take the next step, or move forward past something that is hindering you. Need more help? Set up an appointment with a skilled life coach in New Jersey for personalized assistance and life coaching.

Learn To STOP and Make Better Decisions

Part of my job as a life coach is helping people make good decisions. While I am not a judge, parent, or sage wise-woman who knows your inner desires, I have studied the best ways to create and maintain healthy changes. When I work with clients for life coaching, I use a variety of techniques to help you understand, express, and move toward your goals and dreams. I see this as a collaborative process, like working with a skilled mountain climbing guide to scale a mountain. However, sometimes, you just need a quick tool to make a great decision on your own. Today, I am going to teach you how to STOP!

The Importance of Sleep to High Performance

Could you use a nap? If so, you’re not alone: Up to a third of Americans report that they don’t get the sleep they need to feel rested. But this is just a part of normal life, right? Think again! This week, we’ll be talking about the importance of sleep for high performance in your life—whether that’s making important decisions at work, being there for your family, or just feeling great about yourself. As a life coach, I have seen plenty of people who are sick and tired—of not sleeping!

Input and Output: Why Nutrition Matters

Some people are surprised when they visit a life coach and are asked about their nutrition and dietary habits. “But I’m not looking to lose weight!” is a response I often hear, and it’s a fair response—but nutrition is about far more than just weight management, and plenty of people who are at a very healthy weight are still sabotaging their progress and success due to what they are eating. Read on to find out why nutrition is so important to getting anything done!