Should You Try To Be Positive or Realistic?

When thinking about our lives, there are a number of approaches we can take. For example, do we look at life on the bright side? Is the glass half-full or half-empty? Or, do you choose a purely scientific approach and simply describe your glass as “containing 50% beverage, 50% air”? No matter how you view your life, it has a huge effect on how you function! When people visit an expert life coach in New Jersey, one of the ways to change your life fast is to change the way you look at it. Read on to find out more about the differences between being positive and realistic, and when each is most helpful!

The Positives of Positive
Positive thinking has many great benefits. It can boost your mood, help you notice the good things in your life, and give you the “boost” you need to tackle tough projects. Have you ever found yourself wondering “how do I build motivation?” or “how can I feel happier?” Try positive thinking! When you focus on the good things about your project or life change, and direct your attention to the positive, you can improve your mood and your motivation. This is especially true when you feel stuck—a life coach can help you see the positives that you want to stick with!

The Benefits of Realism
As much as positivity feels and sounds good, sometimes we don’t feel positive about something because we know we need to change it. That guilt you feel when looking at the overflowing laundry basket? That’s not positive—but it is real. Just as much as we need to embrace positivity, reality can help us to know when we need to make changes.

How to Balance Both
How do you stay positive while still being realistic? Finding this balance is the goal of many who seek professional life coaching in NJ. There are hundreds of tricks to balance these two competing needs, but an easy one that you can try is to focus on being “real” only with those things that are in your power to change… for the rest, try to stay positive. If you feel under appreciated at work, can you change that situation by taking a new class and improving your skills? That’s real and goal-oriented. For things out of your control, such as “the world is such a violent place,” try to find a positive example to counteract it, like someone helping others.
Remember, your attention shapes how you view the world! Find a balance between “real” and “positive” on your own, or seek help from Life Coach JB in aligning your priorities most effectively.

Learn How to Use Your Values to Set Goals

Every New Year, people make goals or resolutions. By the end of January, unfortunately, most of these have failed. How can such a time-tested tradition fail over and over again? Some experts suggest that people aren’t really making goals that will work because they aren’t aligning them effectively with their personal values. Translation: If you don’t care about your goals, you won’t achieve them. Read on to find out a better way to set goals from your trusted life coach in New Jersey!

Why Set Goals?
Goals are a great way to ensure ongoing self-awareness and personal development. By setting goals, you are working on making yourself better in the future—for yourself, for your job, or for others. Goals make sure we don’t stagnate and become boring. For some, setting goals can be the start to major changes in life. Unfortunately, this is just what goals should be. In reality, people often pursue goals for other reasons they don’t work as well, such as to please another person, because they think “I should,” or because someone else is doing them.

Why Do Values Matter?
You have to be motivated to achieve your goals. Intrinsic motivation (the kind that comes from inside of you) is much, much better than extrinsic motivation (the kind that comes from other people or other things). Silly phone games are intrinsically motivating—nobody tells you to do them (in fact, they might tell you to put it down!), but completing them is rewarding enough that you might catch yourself sneaking in a game while waiting in line. On the other hand, a report from work should be motivating (paycheck!), but most people report procrastinating and feeling unmotivated. Values matter because they increase intrinsic motivation—you want to make these changes for yourself!

How to Set Better Goals
To start making better goals, think about your values. There are free quizzes to assess values online, but mostly, you need your brain. What is truly most important to you? Identify your top five areas. Popular values include family, personal development, humanitarian ideals, relaxation, peacefulness, integrity, honesty, giving to others, or compassion for animals—but there are thousands! Once you have chosen your top five values, set goals that support these values. For example, if you have placed your children’s success as a top value, your goal might be to take them to a cultural event each month so they are well-rounded. If you placed your professional development as a top value, your goal might be to listen to a new podcast each week on the way to work.
By connecting your values to your goals, you can increase meaning as well as increasing your changes of success! For more help setting great goals, contact Life Coach JB today!

Learn To STOP and Make Better Decisions

Part of my job as a life coach is helping people make good decisions. While I am not a judge, parent, or sage wise-woman who knows your inner desires, I have studied the best ways to create and maintain healthy changes. When I work with clients for life coaching, I use a variety of techniques to help you understand, express, and move toward your goals and dreams. I see this as a collaborative process, like working with a skilled mountain climbing guide to scale a mountain. However, sometimes, you just need a quick tool to make a great decision on your own. Today, I am going to teach you how to STOP!

The Importance of Sleep to High Performance

Could you use a nap? If so, you’re not alone: Up to a third of Americans report that they don’t get the sleep they need to feel rested. But this is just a part of normal life, right? Think again! This week, we’ll be talking about the importance of sleep for high performance in your life—whether that’s making important decisions at work, being there for your family, or just feeling great about yourself. As a life coach, I have seen plenty of people who are sick and tired—of not sleeping!

Top Tips for Motivation When You’re Feeling Stuck

As a life coach, one of the things that many of my clients come to me with is a feeling of being “stuck.” They ask “how can I take the next step?” or “how can I get out of this slump?” While the best way to get motivated and start making the changes you need to make in your life is by working with a skilled life coach in New Jersey, there are also plenty of DIY options that you can try yourself! Here are my favorite “quick tips” to boost motivation when you’re feeling stuck.

Input and Output: Why Nutrition Matters

Some people are surprised when they visit a life coach and are asked about their nutrition and dietary habits. “But I’m not looking to lose weight!” is a response I often hear, and it’s a fair response—but nutrition is about far more than just weight management, and plenty of people who are at a very healthy weight are still sabotaging their progress and success due to what they are eating. Read on to find out why nutrition is so important to getting anything done!

Upcoming Event: It’s All About You!

Do you dream of a day when you don’t have to answer to anybody, take anyone else’s preferences into account, or put on a good face? If so, you may be interested in our “All About You” event, coming up on Wednesday, March 28th, 2018, from 9-2:30. This great event focuses all about you, asking the question, “what’s next for me and how do I get there?” What will you learn at this event? Read on to find out more!